Tom Petty said it best didn’t he? With the heartbreakers and in the 1981 release ‘The Waiting’ where he sang:
The waiting is the hardest part. Every day you see one more card. You take it on faith, you take it to the heart. The waiting is the hardest part
Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
Because we live in the physical world, we are appropriately equipped to move through it and grow from the experience. Our equipment, is sensory perception. Anyone versed in spiritual explorations knows there is of course, much more to real life than what sensory perception allows us to experience however, for the sake of navigation in and through this here physical realm, it is more than adequate. Especially for the purposes of physical survival. Spiritual survival conversely, being irrelevant because there is no death in spirit, only experience and therefore, to varying degrees, growth in one way or another. So what’s the problem with sensory perception?
It does what it is supposed to do no doubt but, has its flaws in the context of us living as whole people. Yes, it has its flaws. And this is no more obvious than when we are creating. Creating in itself requires a particular level of ‘step back’, trust in the process, patience, faith if you want to call it that, calm as opposed to angst, and balanced focus, if it is to work – inline with natural flow – principles. Here’s a reminder of the process:
ONE: Self evaluate. Honestly appraise where you are right now, what you have and what you do not have, what you are happy with and what you are not happy with. There is no opinion or judgement in this process. It is instead done objectively without involvement and with a clear perspective.
TWO: Visualise and evaluate where you want to be right now (regardless that change takes time). Getting involved this time is OK. FEEL what it is like to have the things you imagine are worth having. What is life like in your ‘new’ picture, how does it FEEL, how do the people in it act, what is happy about it?
The difference between one and two may be small or large but it is that difference which sets up tension in your life and while most people will respond by saying “why would I want to do that?”, all tension MUST resolve. It’s principle based. Tension MUST resolve either forward or backward, up or down, back to where it was so therefore, without tension or, into a new form and again therefore, without tension. Once the tension is generated, the only part of the process left is to support resolution in the direction you want.
THREE: ACT. That is take steps toward what it is you want, or want to achieve. Nothing could be simpler because every action begets a result. It may be one main action or it may be a series of actions but either way, once it is begun it is done. There is no ongoing need to think about what to do (even if actions continue) or to evaluate add infintum, or to worry, or change the process. It is done.
The opposite of talking isn’t listening. The opposite of talking is waiting
FOUR: Step back, do something differently – walk, eat, celebrate, visit old friends, sleep. In fact, deliberately walk away from the setting up and thinking about process. It is done. Now you want to act and act accordingly as per your own plan but allow the process to unfold naturally, or of its own accord and in its own time. It will manifest perfectly according to universal law. You may not be happy with how long it takes or the end result may not be perfectly aligned to what you THOUGHT you had imagined. It will none-the-less, manifest accordingly and, in the right place and in the right time (You can adjust the process and act again if you want to get closer to exactly what you want). All you have to do to support it once steps 1 – 3 are initiated, is trust in the process, get on with other aspects of life and, WAIT.
Time has a beautiful way of sifting the important from the fluff
But this isn’t about sitting in a corner twiddling thumbs and staring at the wall. That is certainly a viable option given the benefits of regular mediation to both our physical and mental health, but not in this context however. The waiting we speak of here is necessary but only valuable, when the first three steps have been initiated. After all, we all know what happens when we sit around and wait aimlessly right? Things change yes, that’s inevitable, but who knows which way they will go? And it’s pretty certain they won’t be going in the way we want.
You have to act, you have to take part in life as it were, IF you want results which are inline with your wants and desires – Deliberate Living as Harry Palmer calls it. But acting constantly without break, evaluation, assessment, review, appreciation, and/or observation, gives rise to angst and does NOT, allow the proverbial space for things to unfold of their natural accord. It’s like resistance training. Through a slight increase in stimulation, you can encourage your muscles to respond. They will respond by growing stronger and more often than not, larger too. But if you stimulate them all the time and do not allow any time for them to actually do the growing – recover – they will in fact shrink and become overworked – weak – as will your physical and mental health.
No, balance as with anything in this life is essential. We are living in the physical realm but we are spiritual entities, so why isn’t it obvious that balance is key? Yes, we must act and we must do so in accordance with the universal laws if we want a life created primarily by us however, after we have done so, after we have acted out these planned strategies, then we must ensure the balance is maintained, then we must wait. And nothing worth having ever comes easy right? So we know, in advance, that even though the outcome will be well and truly worth it, the hardest part is and always will be:
Pleasant musings til next time
Wilson, Dianne, J, 10 reasons waiting is good for you, lifehack.org
Palmer, Harry, AVATAR, avatarepc.com
Fritz, Robert, robertfritz.com
Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, 1981, THE WAITING, Sony/ATV music publishing, USA